Antenna tv has recently started playing old re-runs of Newhart, the Bob Newhart show from the 80’s where he and his wife move from New York to Vermont to run an old, historical inn, centered in a small town. Just the theme song alone makes me happy, and in fact, it was the opening of this very show, with all of the gorgeous, colorful views of Vermont that has made me secretly long to live there since I was very young.
Last night’s episode happened to really strike a chord with me, and I couldn’t help but chuckle that it took a classic tv show to help me get over something that has been eating away at me since Christmas day.
In the episode, in classic sitcom fashion, a series of events occurs where Stephanie and Joanna happen across Michael’s diary, where in it, he happens to say a lot of very not nice things about all of the people he is closest to. As they read the entries, they understandably get upset, sad, angry, ultimately hurt that someone so close to them is saying such awful things about them.
Now, Michael is not mean to anyone directly, quite the opposite. This is why it was so upsetting! They assume that everything is storybook happy, everyone loves everyone and no one ever thinks a single bad thing about anyone else. But realistically, as Bob points out, everyone is guilty of thinking bad thoughts about everyone else. That’s just human nature. Michael’s thoughts were private, and not meant for anyone else to see.
In a somewhat similar situation, I was shown hurtful words said about myself by someone very close to me, things that truly broke my heart and that have since then, left me feeling sad and at times quite angry. I don’t believe this person even knows what happened, and certainly, they haven’t and would never say these things to my face. Quite possibly, taking the context in mind, it was things said out of anger and frustration with someone else. Regardless, besides wishing I was never shown or pulled into the nonsense, I have let it eat away at me and tarnish what I thought was an amazing, loving relationship.
Last night’s episode of Newhart, hearing Bob’s infinite wisdom, realizing that I was never meant to see or know those things were said, and being reminded that we are all guilty of the same thing, we just don’t usually have it shoved in our faces, well, it was a light bulb moment.
Thank you Bob Newhart and classic tv, for having timeless wisdom and for getting through this girl’s thick skull. And yes, I still want to live in Vermont. 🙂